| Annotation and comments |
Client’s lived experiences |
So-called emerging topics |
| Incompetent in relationshipPartner = strict, criticalI’m uselessPartner makes fun of me even among other peopleThrown off balance = can’t fight back |
Recently I’ve felt totally incompetent in my relationship. My partner is strict and he does not speak well of me, in fact he keeps criticising me. Sometimes I think about the reasons why he is still in this relationship with me when I’m so useless. He laughs at me when I do something that goes wrong and tells it to other people when we go out. I always throw me off balance, I can’t fight back. |
Significance of relationship with a partnerSignificance of partner’s behaviour – absence of supportPerception of selfExceeding limitsLoose limits |
| Loser even at homePartner’s behaviour = brother’s behaviourFather hated when I talkedDesire to speakSilence = ignored by fatherDidn’t obey = slap |
I used to be a loser even at home. This is exactly how my brother behaved to me and in fact he still does. And actually my dad always hated when I talked. I talked quite a lot – or wanted to. He often told me to be quiet already, but then he just ignored me completely. When I didn’t obey and kept talking, he would slap me. Sometimes it was so hard I fell down. |
Place at homeSignificance of matching behaviour of brother and partnerSignificance of relationship and father’s behaviour Absence of support of communication (deficits vs. intrusion) Significance of silence and talkSignificance of ignoring vs. slap as punishment |
| Be invisible and muteI shouldn’t existFather = doesn’t respect me |
Maybe he wished I were invisible and mute. Sometimes I felt I shouldn’t have even existed. Or that he didn’t respect me. |
Right not to be seen and heard Absence of place and support |
